Raw Thoughts on Problematic Technology Use

It's no wonder so many of us struggle to put our phones down.

Many forms of technology are designed to appeal to the same neural reward pathways involved in addiction. They tap into the parts of our brains that love novelty, quick rewards, social connection, anticipation, and instant gratification. Every notification, like, video, and "just one more scroll" activates a system that keeps us coming back for more.

So, no judgment if you're one of the many people who reach for your phone when you're stressed, bored, lonely, overwhelmed, or simply looking for a break. Most of us do it. Putting down your phone isn't just about having more willpower. It's about understanding what we're up against and learning to use technology wisely instead of automatically.

If you're interested in learning more, I've made the slides from my Digital Dopamine presentation available on my website. They explore how technology affects the brain, why it can be so hard to disconnect, and practical strategies for creating a healthier relationship with our devices.

Helpful tip from the book Rebuilding Relationships in Recovery - Creating Safety and Compassion for Your Loved Ones

Once we embrace recovery, many of us are quick to welcome the newcomer. Whether they walk into a 12-step meeting, treatment center, or therapist's office, we remember what it felt like to take that first courageous step. We are quick to offer patience, encouragement, and compassion because we know how difficult the journey can be.

What we sometimes forget is that our loved ones may be having a similar experience when they reach out for help for the first time. Your family member is new to recovery, too. Just as we are learning to live without substances, family members are learning how to heal, trust, communicate, and relate in new ways. Recovery is about much more than abstinence. It's about rebuilding relationships, improving communication, and creating healthier patterns of connection, all of which can begin by offering our loved ones the same support we seek ourselves.

Additional Resources For Information and Help

Suicide & Crisis Lifeline dial 988 is now the three-digit dialing code that routes callers to the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.

For substance abuse treatment and mental health referrals, contact the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration's (SAMHSA) National Helpline at 1-800-662-4357

AA world service - https://www.aa.org

Al-anon - https://al-anon.org/

Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families - https://adultchildren.org/

Please share this newsletter with anyone you think might find it helpful. My mission is to reach anyone struggling with their addiction, mental health, or their ability to reconnect with their friends and family.